Do you find yourself feeling lonely, even though people are all around you?

I'll do my best to explain what's happening in your nervous system when you are experiencing the lonely feeling. 

Basically, your body & mind is perceiving an experience of being unfulfilled, unseen, misunderstood and like you may never get your needs met and will be stuck feeling unfulfilled forever.

This feeling can create intense sensations in the body and emotions like helplessness, fear, unworthiness, desperation and so much more. 

As the sensations and emotions become more intense in your body it can flood your system and send you into your head overthinking about the past, tripping out about the future and lead you down all kinds of rabbit holes to fill yourself up with ANYTHING other than the sensations, feelings and emotions you are feeling.

And, then you feel self-conscious and alone isolated in your thought life with all this energy swirling around in your body and mind

I remember feeling lonely often before I stayed stopped drinking and fully committed to my path of consciousness.

It was like no matter what I tried, I felt empty.

Do you relate at all to this so far?

This cycle of feeling lonely and trying to figure out why and how to make it stop leads to the Hungry Ghost cycle.

This is when you start to constantly seek something outside yourself to curb an insatiable yearning for relief of the sensations in your body or some kind of nourishment or fulfillment to feel needed, desired, or loved.

This is the pattern I see the most often in humans.

More, more, more...

But all the while, some part of you feels helpless to change the patterns of your life.

So you keep seeking something outside yourself feeling fulfilled for a while, only to find yourself in the same cycle soon after.

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
and you are the only one who can change the pattern.

It is very likely that you experienced some kind of relational trauma in your childhood and the adults in your life were not safe, consistent, or emotionally mature.

Therefore you did not feel safe or secure.

Listen, forming meaningful connections with people that nourish you, challenge you, support you, and create feelings of safety for you, is a biological imperative for survival especially for going beyond surviving to thrive.

Today, I invite you to explore your relationship with loneliness.

Are you actually lonely or is there a place where you are scared to trust others?

Is there a spot where you feel closed off and blocked from letting the love into your life and truly receiving it?

Does it feel like you are consistently creating problems that don't exist to distract you from the vulnerability of learning to trust others?

Do you find yourself seeking, gripping onto people, places, and things outside of yourself to soothe, validate or distract yourself?

As you go on this exploration remember that there is nothing wrong with you!!!!

Awareness is the first step towards meaningful change in your nervous system and in your life.

And if you're ready to move beyond awareness, I invite you to join me for Cultivate Trust.

Cultivate Trust is an interactive experience designed to guide you to feel & understand the biggest thing that keeps you from trusting yourself and feeling stuck in your life.

And yes, a map to start living differently.

Practicing beside you,

Amy